Love The Flaws You’re In.
We all make mistakes. We all make choices that go against our better judgement. [ctt template=”8″ link=”89E3D” via=”no” ]There is no immunity from being human.[/ctt]
As children we are taught lessons through the eyes of other people. As we grow physically, emotionally and spiritually, somewhere along the way, the lessons shift to our perspective of life as we see it. Although we can seek guidance, the decisions that we make become more about how we relate to the world through our own experiences. There is no one size fits all to life. As humans, I think we often tend to forget we all have our own experiences through life which create how we navigate the world around us. Thus, learning to display appreciation + understanding for another person’s journey is vital towards growth both within mixed with compassion towards those around us on a different journey than our own.
Compassion goes a long way when what others choose for themselves doesn’t necessarily reflect what we would do, given the same choice. Just because a person does not have the same beliefs as you, doesn’t move in the same direction as you; instead takes actions towards the path that their road leads, does not mean their journey is any less valid than your own. [ctt template=”8″ link=”_APe9″ via=”no” ]How boring would the world be if everyone spoke the exact same language?[/ctt]
When it comes to embracing our flaws, it is the act of not only loving the person that we are in spite of the areas of our life that we’ve decided make us somehow incomplete. It is also the act of acknowledging those around us as having their own flaws too. Flaws are not meant as tools to use against one another. Think about how difficult it is to always make the right choices in your own life, now imagine how that same difficulty can often be multiplied in another person.
Please hear me when I say, I am not by any means condoning the acceptance of ill-treatment from others. What I am saying is that flaws are universal. Often times, if we would choose to step back long enough to display compassion towards others whose flaws do not match our own, we are provided a means for making an unbiased decision on whether or not we are allowing ourselves to grow to our full capacity. Are your flaws magnified around certain people, in particular situations? Does this encourage you to take action towards working on bettering yourself or does it cause you to spiral down further? [ctt template=”8″ link=”33xM3″ via=”no” ]Asking the right questions at the right times, opens up room for clarity.[/ctt]
In my experience, when I am unable to fully accept the person that I am, then it is important for me to evaluate what I am feeling. Is this feeling more about me, or is it more about the person and/or environment that I am in? If I feel a push towards learning the lesson to move past it, then I am able to determine how much of myself I am willing to contribute in order to do so. Learning that a particular flaw could indeed use some special attention to become a better person for myself first and then to those around me. On the other hand, if I feel like the overall outcome won’t affect my acceptance of my flaws, then I can pretty much determine that it’s best for me to move in a different direction. Even if it’s just in the moment. Honoring my truth while still gaining a valuable lesson. Understanding that it is okay for me to take the time needed to decide which actions to take from there. Praying for guidance.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. Allowing yourself to flourish to new heights without feeling the need for validation, acceptance, nor approval is when loving your flaws becomes real. It’s human nature to want others to see our greatness. Everyone wants to feel accepted and loved for who they are on the inside. That includes the parts of us that we try so hard to hide. Understanding that not everyone else is going to see us as we see ourselves nor approve of the choices that we make for our life is okay. They are not required to. Their flaws could very well be what is hindering them from doing so. Decide for yourself what is important to you so that you can choose compassion towards every aspect of the person that you are. Doing so will seep out into compassion towards those whose path doesn’t meet in the middle with yours. You will still be gifting yourself + the world with the very best version of WHO YOU ARE. You will also be allowing others the same choice to do so for themselves. Related Post: Building Blocks Of Trust
Do you love the flaws you’re in?
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